Friday, 17 May 2013

Reality: What You Make It...

I keep starting and stopping posts tonight. I can't seem to hang on to a thought. So I am going to take some advice from a (deeply moving) link I read earlier in the week and it is half in response to some criticism I received during the week about this blog not being "real" enough... 

"Work hard to find the beauty in each stage of your child's life. When you are washing the jam off your face, know that someday you will pine for that unsolicited kiss of a child. When you are cleaning the crumbs from the car seat, know that one day they will be driving away from you. When you are in the midst of whatever battle royale you find yourself in, know that every moment is a gift, even the sucky ones."
I think that's a lot about why I blog. I can spend the day exhausted, looking less than fresh, my house smelling less than fresh and acquiring the odd war story about stepping in poo or catching vomit in my own hands. But later, when it's quiet and the everybody under this roof is bathed, fed and either asleep or horizontal in front of the TV I get to sit. I look at pictures from the day/week. I reflect.

Call it idealistic. Call it stupidity. Call it a check out of reality. Call it narcissistic. I don't care. As it goes, not all the time but most of the time, I don't want to sit here and wallow in the boring woes of a mothers day. I choose not to focus on the fact she didn't eat all her dinner and I filled her up on yoghurt instead. I feel no need to relay the moments she kind of irritated me with her whines about not being allowed to play with the toilet brush. I don't feel better for whining about my 6:00am wake-up (it might be 5:00am tomorrow so best I get on with it).
Infact I want to sit and find the beauty in the day. I want to tell Steve about how she now answers "yes" to a question. I want to enjoy the memory of the cuddles and kisses. I want to share all the things I am excited for with new baby on my blog. I want to post a beautiful picture of her gorgeous pink baby toes.

Sue me.

Feels like too often positivity is read as naivety. I don't need to exude apathy to prove I'm living a real life. And I do think there's something to be said for what a friend told me once... That if you smile it sends happy endorphins around your body and you feel happier.
Nooooo that's not to say we shouldn't talk to our friends when we need to. Cry when you need to. But maybe after the tears we'd bounce back a little better if we're better practiced at "finding the beauty".
Maybe.

Maybe it's worth a thought.

15 comments:

  1. Love this post Charlie! I love that your blog is so positive, why shouldn't it be?! It makes me smile when I read your lovely words and see the gorgeous pictures of Euna. They are only babies for a very short time. Lets make the most of it. I don't know who wants to read a blog full of moany old posts because I certainly don't! Keep on smiling lovely! xx

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  2. Ditto, amazing words!! Exactly true...

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  3. Hi Charlie!!! Happy to have found your blog and started follow you immediately :)

    Because.... these are my words exactly! (only my english is so poor I could have never wrote this *lol*)

    In my photography (and blog) I focus ONLY on the most beautiful side of life. My style may be gloss photo-like and even annyoing for some people... but so? No statements actually needed here. For some of us it works. I truly believe the beautiness and positivity we try to share is important for some :)

    Lovely lovely lovely blog you have ♥

    I'd like to share your post on myy Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/MonasPicturesque - I hope it's okay..?

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  4. Great post. My motto is "always look at the bright side of the life". There will always be people who want to belittle you, laugh at your way looking at the world or your way of seeing it that to fight those (or even pay attention to those)is waste of time. Your child photos are so endearing. My kids are 16 and 23 and I wish there'd been digital cameras when they were small... All the best and keep blogging!

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  5. Great post. My motto is "always look at the bright side of the life". There will always be people who want to belittle you, laugh at your way looking at the world or your way of seeing it that to fight those (or even pay attention to those)is waste of time. Your child photos are so endearing. My kids are 16 and 23 and I wish there'd been digital cameras when they were small... All the best and keep blogging!

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  6. If you posted about the rubbish bits, there would be people who told you to start seeing the positive.... Keep doing what you're doing, we love it!!

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  8. Charlie I am really surprised that YOU got a comment about your blog not being real enough? Really? I think you are one of the best displayer {is that a word?} of emotions without being overboard. Besides if you complained too much someone would say something about that too! I think you do an amazing job and your daughter is just too cute for words!

    Thank you for linking to Raising Imperfection.
    Please come back Friday to see if you were featured. :)

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    1. Congrats Charlie ~ you were the most clicked post from Raising Imperfection and you are featured today over at Feature Fridays!

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  9. I love your blog! I get tired of the blogs that only complain about the negativity of being a Mom. It is the hardest job I have ever had but also the best, most rewarding. I adore the last photo of her adorable teeny foot.

    Thank you for linking up to Raising Imperfection!
    Make sure to check back on Friday to see if you were featured.
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  10. Beautiful child and beautiful sentiments. I definitely understand when people comment that my blog isn't real enough, because I'm working on opening up. But keeping positive is very real! I'm glad to be stopping by from Raising Imperfection.

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  11. Beautiful post.. beautiful child! xx

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  12. this is such a beautiful post and i truly we have to hang onto the good as a way of getting through the bad!! lol

    gorgeous pictures .. as always honey xx

    Thanks for linking up with #magicmoments x

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  13. I am surprised that anyone would find your blog "not real." I love the photographs and the positivity.It is such a good practice to reflect on what's gone well and all that we have to be grateful for - it makes for a happier life all around.

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  14. These are my thoughts entirely. I also had negative comments on my twitter that I'm to idealist and its not a true life, even when I've displayed my upsets on my blog about my other mummy role as a step mama to my lil ducky. Your blog is great, every post is so brilliant and the photos just stunning. Don't let the negative jealousy stunt your amazing posts xxx

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